Ho ho ho! (Q.E.D.)

(Or, This Festive Season, Teach Your Children to Believe Responsibly)

Ho ho ho!

Illustration by Ask Alice

Currently circulating on social media is this letter from a couple of well-intentioned parents to their questioning son, who is looking for the truth about Santa Claus. Not wanting to deprive their boy of his innocent credulity, nor wishing to tell him outright lies, the parents take the circuitous route of explaining Santa as a metaphor for a bunch of desirable qualities like love, hope and happiness.

Mom, are you Santa?

I can understand why many parents choose not to disenchant kids at an early age. It’s endearing to see children take delight in their fantasy worlds. It’s lovely to watch them immerse themselves in works of fiction and let their imaginations run wild in creative play. What’s more, fictional characters like Harry Potter, Santa Claus and the tooth fairy are common reference points for the majority of children in our society, and their stories are powerful symbols of a shared popular culture.

Just as I can see the pleasures of letting kids revel in their fantasies, I can understand why parents are keen to ensure that their kids develop a steady grip on reality. As children mature, it’s increasingly important for them to be able to distinguish real-life characters and events from fictional ones, to understand real relationships of cause and effect, and generally to know how to get by in the real world. After all, we don’t want to cultivate a generation of hapless, ineffectual dreamers like Walter Mittey, to take a fictional example.

So, fantasy and reality are both important for kids. But how do we decide when to allow kids to believe, when to encourage them to disbelieve – and for that matter, when to help them suspend their disbelief?

The parents who wrote the letter above would like to have it both ways. They’re reluctant to dump Santa Claus altogether, as he’s sentimentally tied to ‘the spirit of Christmas’. On the other hand, they’ve realised that as their son grows older, the traditional Santa myth is becoming untenable. Too much of it doesn’t make sense: Santa can’t get around to all the kids in the world within 24 hours; his girth couldn’t possibly fit in a chimney; the present-making elves have surely been superseded by department stores by now; and there are no flying reindeer in the zoo.

So, the parents have hit on a compromise: It’s Santa, Jim, but not as we know him.

Is Santa real? (cartoon)

Cartoon by David Urbinder

Unfortunately this compromise is unsatisfying. Aside from its complete neglect of the historical figure of St Nicholas, the notion that Santa “is the magic and love and spirit of giving to others” seems odd, because if the Santa story teaches children anything about the gift economy, surely it teaches them to receive, not to give.

In the letter, things take a turn for the irrational when the parents build on the metaphor of Santa-as-magic. They start by saying that Santa teaches children to learn how “to believe in something they can’t see or touch.” They go on to say that children, throughout their lives, “will need this capacity to believe in…things you can’t measure or hold in your hands.”

There are several things wrong with this. Firstly, it conflates ‘things worth believing in’ with ‘things that are invisible and intangible.’ By contrast, I would argue that it’s worth believing in things that are real – noting that real things can be visible or invisible, tangible or intangible – and that it’s worth disbelieving in things that aren’t real, all of which are invisible (unless you’re dreaming or hallucinating).

When you’re trying to decide whether it makes sense to believe in something, the question of whether you can see or touch it is a bit of a red herring.

Reindeer illustration

Illustration by Jay Cover via booooooom

A further point: I can’t imagine how believing in non-real (and invisible) Santa could prepare children meaningfully for believing in real (and invisible) things like themselves and their families. Self-confidence and familial trust are simply not analogous to faith in a fantastical being.

The wording of the letter hints that children should be taught to believe, more generally, in anything invisible and intangible, by virtue of the fact that certain things worth believing in are invisible and intangible.1 A far better use of parental authority, it seems to me, is to encourage kids to apply critical thinking to all the stories they encounter.

Parents can be powerful advocates for their children’s intellectual autonomy. They can help their kids to draw their own well-reasoned conclusions; to value coherence and logical consistency (among other things) in the construction of their worldviews; and to cleave to their beliefs with a level of confidence proportional to the amount and quality of evidence available.

With a little analysis and reflection – perfectly accessible to an eight-year-old – it’s clear that believing in things without good evidence often means believing in things that aren’t true.

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Postscript – December 2015

The ‘Santa lie’ raises a number of other ethical questions which David Kyle Johnson tackles in his post Do parents who tell their kids about Santa end up on the Naughty list? on The Ethics Centre blog.

 

 

Santa Claus

Illustration by Deborah Klabin

 

1 This kind of mistaken belief is potentially harmful, as Massimo Pigluicci and Maarten Bourdry explain in their New York Times article The Dangers of Pseudoscience.

 

The Philosophy Club runs co-curricular and extra-curricular workshops for children in Australia.

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7 responses to “Ho ho ho! (Q.E.D.)

  1. Or just maybe, part of the delight of being a child is being able to believe in things that aren’t real. Fairies, elves and other un-real creatures are a part of what makes childhood magical. (And I use that word deliberately).
    I don’t think life always has to be grounded in logic. If we weren’t able to suspend our understanding of what is ‘real’ every now and again, we wouldn’t be able to truly enjoy great works of fiction and other forms of escape from the logical world in which we spend most of our time.
    Andi xx

  2. Andi, I grew up not believing in Santa (rightly or wrongly, my parents were very keen not to lie to me) and I never experienced any lack of ‘magic’ in my childhood. I read fantasy stories and dreamt of fairies and even enjoyed engaging with the Santa myth, and I delighted in all of these things. I was perfectly capable of suspending disbelief and of experiencing the magic of childhood while appreciating and valuing that my parents wanted me to believe only things that were true. It is possible to appreciate and engage in both logic and fantasy. Children are perfectly capable of suspending disbelief without being taught to actually outright *believe* in fantastical beings first.

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  4. Reblogged this on Norah Colvin and commented:
    In comments to one or two previous posts on my blog, suggestions were made that I should tackle the issue of Santa. I wasn’t prepared to do that at the time, and am still not. (I didn’t do much of a job of it as a parent.)
    However I came across this post by Michelle Sowey, and I think she tackles it quite well. Being a philosopher, she deals with it much better than I would.
    Although it’s not Christmas yet, it’s never too early or too late to start thinking about issues like these.

    • Hi Michelle, Thank you for the interest you sparked by writing this article. I appreciate your further comments. I’ll let you know if more ensue. It is certainly a more complex issue than most people think and worthy of more consideration than most people give it. I appreciate your input and stretch to my thinking.

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